There are some people who want to be my friend. Perfectly nice people. But if I get a sense in my heart that I am not meant to build (or rebuild) relationship with them, I just won’t. I always ask God first and He always tell me. If He says no, I won’t return their call, or their email or their text. It seems cruel, and maybe even a bit ‘unchristian’ but it is part of the boundary system God has put around my life. If God says “stay away” I step back. I have made enough mistakes in that area before. I know God’s heart for me and I trust the voice of my spirit when it says that ‘no’.

So whether its an old flame, an old friend or a new person, I have my spiritual radar on high alert. I KNOW many people who have allowed the wrong people into their circle – people who have flirted with other kinds of thrones, other kinds of choices. Something ALWAYS happens to weaken that person in some way. Such people I need have nothing to do with. UNLESS GOD DIRECTS IT. That changes everything.

Perhaps such a person comes into your life again after a long period saying they need you in some way… that YOUR friendship is what they need to stand stronger, understand more of their destiny, rekindle their ebbing faith… I get that kind of email or phone call too sometimes. Not often. (I’m not that amazing!) But sometimes.

It all sounds plausible and tickles the ego nicely doesn’t it? We all like to be needed and appreciated after all. And if people have nice memories of us? Well that’s all very lovely too…

But I come back to the first point I made. We all have certain people in our lives who are not meant to be in our lives – if that doesn’t sound like the craziest sentence I ever wrote! You see, there are some people who will bring us down, remind us of the old self, tap into part of us that is still to be conquered by Jesus. There are also other kinds of people who WE can be of real harm to. Perhaps we mistakenly think WE are the answer to their prayers and try to be. But God has hedged us in and it is never going to work.

There are people in your life and mine that the enemy uses to try and block us from God’s plan for us. If, for some reason I am that for you, you have my permission never to return my call!

Forgive me for not returning yours too. The plan is bigger than we can see and sometimes its very key that we simply obey the voice of God rather than always understanding the reason why.

So today, I delete another email and wait on God to bless the person with my blind obedience rather than my interference. I am not the answer to that person’s needs. Jesus is.